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the grit

I find that my deepest and most resonant connections are those I share with people who are willing to delve into the nitty and the gritty of their lives.  These universal threads link us all together and help me feel normal. It helps me to know that we all experience highs, lows and in-the-middles.

I started my first blog, Musings de Mommy four years ago. When I started writing there, I focused on experiences with my children (who were, when I started writing, 4 and 1.) I wrote in hopes to let other mothers know that the experience of motherhood is full of every emotion–I remember feeling isolated when my unpleasant and unexpected emotions smacked up against my  image of motherhood–and my preconceived ideas of what I should feel and when.

As my children grew and matured, I continued to write about them, but my writing shifted to the broader expanses of my life. My observations. My thoughts. My challenges. My efforts to live presently. The ups. The downs. The middles. The grit. I knew I needed a bigger canvas in which to express myself. That’s when I created this blog.

While pondering the new name for my new blog, I read a blog post by Dani Shapiro titled On Exposure. In this post, Dani writes about her memoirs, and about her readers’ perceptions that she may feel exposed after “putting herself out there”.  This same fear–a fear of overexposure–has thwarted my writing (and my life) many times. I commented on Dani’s post saying:

I find that the grittiest pieces I write resonate the most with others. There are parts I’d like to share, but I don’t, because I’m afraid. Because my story has always been too shrouded in privacy and fear. Each day I get better. But I must continue to circumvent the fear to be able to write it well. 

Dani, in her wisdom, replied,

Sometimes what we think of as the “grittiest” may well be the most universal.

Thus, Universal Grit was born. A place where I can explore the gritty and the beauty of living. (I’ll continue, by the way, to be a mom who muses.) I believe that sharing my grittiest parts levels life. It helps us all quiet that little perfectionist asshole in our minds. We can all then say,

Me too.

Me, too.


Thanks for stopping by,

Denise (A writer. A ponderer. A noticer of small details. A spelunker of emotion. A very gritty person indeed.)

10 Comments leave one →
  1. Lo Yo permalink
    September 28, 2011 3:23 pm

    Go D! I will be reading all of your grit, my friend!

  2. October 12, 2011 4:15 pm

    Oh. My.

    The grit.


    Give it to me.

    Because you are right. What frightens you is in my shadow already. And you Light my way out.

    Go. Dig some more.

  3. July 31, 2012 6:32 pm

    The grit and the beauty make a hot couple. Thanks for your note today.

  4. January 25, 2013 12:37 pm

    I believe I do the same thing you do when you write, with a similar purpose. But, you put it so beautifully here. Thank you.

  5. March 11, 2013 9:55 pm

    Loved reading about the story behind the name.

  6. March 30, 2014 10:40 am

    My favorite about page yet. Giving you a virtual “High Five” and following your ups, downs and in-between. Looking forward to it.

  7. lilypetal91 permalink
    March 30, 2014 4:38 pm

    I love this! Its the one thing I’ve struggled with most. Just how much of myself am I willing to share? I love that Ernest Hemingway quote “There’s nothing to writing, You just sit infront of a typewriter and bleed”

  8. March 31, 2014 11:12 am

    I like your style and your deep-down approach into our human basements – where all the good and not so good stuff is kept/stored/hidden… I’ve been blogging since February and it’s quite revealing. There are so many talented, spectacular, and real people out there and right here at Universal Grit (that is a wonderful name). It is comforting to know others that share the same worries and wonders on different days. Thank you for sharing your candid approach to writing… 🙂

  9. April 16, 2015 9:30 am

    Yes to grit! I’m so happy to have found your blog.

  10. April 16, 2015 9:35 am

    Oh! Just saw the Dani Shapiro comment that inspired your blog name. I love her too, and agree with both your sentiments about grit – the hardest things to write are often the deepest and most illuminating, to readers and to ourselves.

Give me your grit.

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